Many “baby boomers” like myself have had to take over the role of “bill payer” and checking account balancer. For those of us who have swam in these waters, you know it is a daunting task to say the least. Often, the hardest part is obtaining consent from the parent.
Fortunately, there are some tools and strategies that can help with these tasks, according to Kelly Greene at Kelly.greene@wsj.com:
- Setting up a power of attorney
- Monitoring accounts online
- Hiring a professional bill-paying service ( some banks do this)
One way to get the conversation started, says Greene, is to ask your parents for some financial advice—and then bring up something they might find challenging. If your parent(s) are reluctant to cede control, you can suggest starting with an unofficial role of financial monitor. You can then gradually move into a more official role of money manager as you both get comfortable with sharing the reins.
A more formal step is to establish a power of attorney, which allows you to act on your parent’s behalf in all financial matters, such as directing their financial advisors and brokers. In this regard, I recommend consulting with an Elder Law Attorney to draw up the required documents.
Finally, if you’re willing to spend a few thousand dollars, you can set up a revocable living trust to hold a parent’s assets and make you and the parent co-trustees. Having a trust will also address any concerns banks and investment firms may have about children abusing powers of attorney.
These strategies will not solve all the problems associated with the loss of ones independence, but it is a proactive approach to preventing missed payments and unbalanced accounts.